He fell asleep inside me...

My boyfriend and I have a tender and sensual love life. It was his birthday yesterday, so as you could imagine... I was his birthday gift ;) I guess I should also mention my bf sleep sex ( like sleep walking), I refer to it as "sleepsexting". I can tell the difference when he's awake vs. him sleepsexting. When he sleepsext he's more aggressive and talks differently (more rough) and he last only a couple pumps. When he's awake and fully participating he ironically lasts a very long time and he's super attentive, passionate... I guess I got the best of both worlds really! I digress, last night he sleepsexted me and after about a minute he became dead weight on top of me and fell back asleep with his penis fully in me. We slept like that for about an hour? I don't think he came but I wondering: what if there was some leakage, precome or post? Can I get prego from this odd event in the bedroom? I was ovulating 2 days ago as well.....
REPLIES
By: mamaLT
Member since Apr 01, 2013
Posted: on Apr 11, 2013
omg yes! any time u have sex (awake or asleep) u can get pregnant!!! omg....smh.
By: mamaLT
Member since Apr 01, 2013
Posted: on Apr 11, 2013
and yes, u definatly CAN get pregnant from leaking or pre c**
By: shalthene
Member since Jan 13, 2012
Posted: on Apr 11, 2013
Unless this was 72 hours ago this take plan b pills
By: SweetBrea
Member since Feb 19, 2012
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
why do people keep asking this?!?!

IF you (generally speaking to EVERYONE) do not know every single thing that can cause pregnancy, you do not know enough about it to be having it. Period. Sex isnt just about emotions and fun.. It is a responsibility and NEEDS to be treated as such.*sigh*

any time his penis touches your vagina you can get pregnant. period. every single time you have sex, unless one of you is missing major equipment, has been surgically altered or are 100% infertile u can get pregnant. every.single.dang.time. No matter what u are or are not using as birth control.
ay-yi-yi.

how do u KNOW u were ovulating 2 days ago and not the day it happened? unless u are fully tracking your ovulation in PP (as in tracking MORE than just your period), it is just an estimate based on what is average. It isnt what i would call fool-proof. Obviously. If you hadn't had your period after ovulation, u were probably still very fertile.
By: efdusmcwife
Member since Mar 19, 2012
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
I think the better question would be why would you let him have sex with you if you know he is sleeping...weird.
By: kittylovely96
Member since Apr 03, 2013
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
Sometimes u cant control that person.
By: kittylovely96
Member since Apr 03, 2013
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
@sweetbrea why are u mad? Its not that big of a deal. Pink pad is here to ask for help not judgment. This girl asked a question all u have to do is answer it. One day u didn't know everything about sex. A lot of women pass there 30's even still don't know about sex and their married.
By: SweetBrea
Member since Feb 19, 2012
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
1.) If someone is forcing themselves on you (awake or not) and the only excuse is "sometimes you cant control them", that is a form of rape and nothing to take lightly.. or take at all.. (i am aware that this is likely not the case w op, she seems to be consenting.)

2.) Im not mad. Concerned that people are accidentally reproducing from moments exactly like this, yes.. but mad, no.
And, yes, bringing an unintentional life into the world simply because one is doing something they are ignorant about is a very big deal. Even if u fail to see why.

when I lost mt virginity, I knew exactly every instance that could result in pregnancy. period. Because i didnt want to get pregnant so I paid attention in sex ed class AND used the internet and books to fill in any questions i may have still had. (yes.. the even had the internet way back then.. though we had to use Alta vista, not google).
I never said anyone needed to know every single thing about sex ed. What i said is if they dont know everything that can cause pregnancy they need to educate themselves BEFORE doing things that WILL cause pregnancy. Also, just because "lots of people dont know" is no excuse for not educating ones self.. Im inclined to ask, if lots of people jumped off a bridge......

Everything I have said is true and perfectly valid. It's something she SHOULD know, even if it sounds harsh. What I am saying is for her own good and it WAS help, even if someone feels my concern came across "too strong"..
By: Sassybellatink3700
Member since Feb 27, 2013
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
I agree sweet brea
By: luvvbug94
Member since Apr 02, 2013
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
Well ur basicly over talking yourself @sweet brea first you say " why do people keep asking that " and then on ur second response you say "if people are gonna have sex they need to get educated" well hunny, what do you think pink pad is for? to judge and cause drama? no its for people to learn and ask questions to get more educated about sex, periods , and the human body. So before you go running off saying one thing and then another actually think about it.
By: SweetBrea
Member since Feb 19, 2012
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
I clearly should have said 'why do people always ask this AFTER HAVING SEX". Over talking or not, its accurate. It isnt that she is trying to learn that is the problem here.. The point You seem to miss is that one needs to seek these answers BEFORE they have sex. The question "can i get pregnant from my bf falling alseep inside me" before it happens is not the same thing as saying "my bf fell asleep inside me while i was possibly ovulating.. can i get pregnant from that?".
Its like someone asking for driving instructions after they have wrecked the car..

I have a hard time imagining anyone who was educated on pregnancy would be opposed to my line of thinking. It blows my mind that anyone disagrees with me. and, frankly, it scares the s*** out of me. *sigh*
By: rissa86
Member since Dec 30, 2011
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
I think SweetBrea's point is that, people should know BEFORE they have sex that ANY type of penis-vagina penetration can lead to pregnancy, NO MATTER WHAT the experience/situation/circumstances may be.
By: SweetBrea
Member since Feb 19, 2012
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
kcie, u r kidding, right? I dont even know what to say to that, really.. i will take a shot... It isnt as if you have to google each one. a simple "what causes pregnancy" search will sufficiently explain that any time genitals touch, there is a chance of pregnancy.. A simple sex ed book WILL explain what causes pregnancy and how to minimize your chances the best.. Im really confused by your statement. Do you really research things in such a round-about way?
Are people seriously defending ignorant sexual activity, here? I cannot understand this. I need to go. Good luck to each and every one of u.. some will need it more than others. Have a wonderful weekend, ladies.

And just so everyone was clear.. I am not trying to pick on anyone or be rude. It is a simple fact that you (general) should be educated before engaging in sexual activity. No one said u need to be doctors, but if u dont know a penis in your vagina can cause pregnancy, u dont know much and u need to be educated to at least a reasonable level. I am utterly shocked i am getting so much resistance here.
Do people really think accidental pregnancy is no big deal?


alright.. its clear i am way too long winded when i am tired. sorry for the long replies, ladies. I am going to work on my novel and call it a night. Dream well, all.
By: SweetBrea
Member since Feb 19, 2012
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
I am not trying to be condescending. Just factual. Perhaps a bit blunt. I am sorry if it seemed that way. For the record, any tone assumed in my post is just that, assumed. Im sorry if i was unclear.
By: rissa86
Member since Dec 30, 2011
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
@kcie- Well, thank u for the kind words, I appreciate it :-) But actually, no, I don't work in the medical field lol... most of my knowledge actually comes from a combination of my own experiences & online research over the years. And, maybe SweetBrea could've worded some things differently, but what she's been saying is absolutely true. Its frightening to see that so many ladies on here don't know the basics. It's one thing for the young girls on here not to know them, but a GROWN WOMAN not knowing them? That's just even more frightening, because a grown woman should definitely already know these things. And I know the OP never said her age, but from her pic she doesn't look like young teen, so I'm gonna assume she's at least 18+... Just saying.
By: SweetBrea
Member since Feb 19, 2012
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
lol. That is their prerogative. Do i sound frustrated when i see the same question over and over again by sexually active women and girls? probably. and thats my prerogative. :)
I already apologized for the misunderstanding. No need to keep discussing it and what you think i should do like I cannot see it. Perhaps my first message conveyed my concern and frustration a bit more than it should have. The rest of my messages have been nothing more than defending my opinion and genuine questions i had out of sheer confusion of the perceived problem with my post. I still fail to see the big deal its been blown into over a little sigh and an ay-yi-yi (neither or which were directed at anyone or anything particular.. just a general expression of the repetition of this topic..)
Have a nice evening, everyone.
By: a.snorris
Member since Oct 24, 2012
Posted: on Apr 13, 2013
Either way, the guy and girl should be educated before the act, not after.
By: SL0TH
Member since Mar 21, 2013
Posted: on Apr 14, 2013
Wow, that did come across as rude.
By: KikiMonster
Member since Mar 01, 2013
Posted: on Apr 14, 2013
how did this go from people responding to a post to an altercation over someone sounding frustrated. if u don't like the way @SweetBrea responded then ignore it, reply to the post and move on with ur day. @SweetBrea made valid points. yes she could have said it differently but oh well. she said it the way she felt.
point is yes you can get pregnant from any form of vaginal intercourse with the opposite sex. it would help a great deal if people would get educated about sex before they have it but hey things happen. be safe and be protected.
By: Krystyne
Member since Apr 11, 2013
Posted: on Apr 15, 2013
Thank you all for you valid points and replies. I never usually post any thing as personal as I did. The only reason I did was because I thought this was a safe place without judgement. The only way to get answers is to ask. When I do finally get enough courage to expose myself... I do. All I was looking for was a lil experience, strength, and hope. I paid attention in sex Ed. But truthfully sleep sexting wasn't a general topic then and still to this day a lot is still being found out. It is a neurological condition. If we were to get pregnant it wouldn't be unwanted. We are both in our early thirties and make good money both separate and combined. We both have deep rooted family values... So a baby would only be a blessing. Thank you to the women who showed a little compassion. Take care ladies!
By: jodide
Member since Aug 17, 2011
Posted: on Apr 15, 2013
Sexsomnia, is the medical term for a person that engages in sexual acts while asleep. It's a more common condition than people would believe, and is classified as a sleep disorder. The person has NO control of it, and most times doesn't remember it in the morning (quite obviously, because they were asleep). As long as the partner is aware, and has no reservations of having sex with their partner while he/she is asleep, it's not rape, or even sexual assault.

As for what @Sweet stated, and argued her point to defend her thoughts, I have to say I completely agree. I do understand that PP is here for us to ask questions and get answers, but the redundancy of the question, "Could I be pregnant????" becomes terribly old for those of us ladies that see the post constantly repeated, and then answer the question.
Plain and simple, if a penis is close to your vagina, or in your vagina, YES, you can be/could be pregnant. This is true even if protection is used. The only way you wouldn't get pregnant, is if you've been made infertile through surgery (tying of tubes), but even that is known to have its very rare failures. Pregnancy can happen because of his sexsomnia because the penis is in contact with the vagina. Period. :-)

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